What is a friend? Well if you watch primetime TV you know that a friend is the person that lives across the hall, or works in your office, or is someone you solve high profile murders with. I don't have any one description of a friend, possibly because I moved from place to place throughout my childhood always being the token "new girl" in school and making my way in a way most kids and teenagers don't have to, by sheer determination to make friends.

Now, twenty years removed from school and having experienced a very full life... my husband is my best friend, really. I never expected him to be, for my own personal reasons, but for those very same reasons, I learned to understand and notice his generosity towards our relationship and our friendship is unspeakably bound. The point of this is, friends cannot be made through giving the most dinner parties or spending the most time together, friends cannot be coerced into being friends, although they can and do pretend to. Friends cannot be "because" of any reason, they simply just are or are not your friend.

If you are lucky, you will be best friends with your husband. If you are smart, you will be friendly to your husband. If you are sociable and kind, you will have many friends. If you are blessed, you will have friends that care enough to knock on your door out of the blue to check on you. If you are lucky, smart, sociable, kind and blessed... then you should be grateful, and I am.